If you have a higher libido than your wife, and you're not getting as much as you like, that's the real issue here. I'd recommend she "help" you out without actually going all the way with you. If you can agree to have sex once every two weeks, then in the meanwhile have her help you by getting naked while you masturbate, titty-**** her, hump her leg, etc.
Check this out. Dan Savage always gives great advice, and the first couple sounds like they have a predicament similar to your own: http://www.thestranger.com/seattle/Savag鈥?/a>|||It's time to either get out or cheat, yes. Marriage is an agreement to satisfy your partner. That doesn't mean you'll get sex every single time you want it (or that she will) but if you're being let down on a regular basis, she's broken her end of the deal, and it's time for you to do the same.
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鈥?8-29 year olds have sex an average of 112 times per year, 30-39 year olds an average of 86 times per year, and 40-49 year olds an average of 69 times per year (Piccinino, Mosher, 1998).
鈥?3% of non-married men reported they have never had sex in the past year, 25% reported only a few times in the past year, 26% reported a few times in the past month, 19% reported 2-3 times a week, and 7% reported 4 or more times a week (Laumann, Gagnon, Michael, Michaels, 1994).
鈥?2% of non-married women reported they have never had sex in the past year, 23% reported only a few times in the past year, 24% reported a few times in the past month, 15% reported 2-3 times a week, and 5% reported 4 or more times a week (Laumann, Gagnon, Michael, Michaels, 1994).
鈥?% of married men reported they have never had sex in the past year, 13% reported only a few times in the past year, 43% reported a few times in the past month, 36% reported 2-3 times a week, and 7% reported 4 or more times a week (Laumann, Gagnon, Michael, Michaels, 1994).
鈥?% of married women reported they have never had sex in the past year,
鈥?2% reported only a few time in the past year, 47% reported a few times in the past month, 32% reported 2-3 times a week, and 7% reported 4 or more times a week (Laumann, Gagnon, Michael, Michaels, 1994).
鈥?3% of married couples reported having sex a few times per year, 45% reported a few times per month, 34% reported 2-3 times per week, and 7% reported 4 or more times per week (Laumann, Gagnon, Michael, Michaels, 1994).
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also, i saw a question similar to that at hppt://www.ilovemywife.com and the married couples came up with about the same answers as did the kinsey institute responders|||We have sex anytime either of us wants to and we both agree we both want to at a particular time or right now. Since I am a man I do need a few hours to rejuvenate and get some energy back. We have sex at least once a day and sometimes twice a day except for the times when either of us is too tired or something else is happening that interferes with this pleasure we both enjoy by having sex as often as we can. Sex is the most pleasurable activity two people can enjoy together by giving and receiving and the only consequence we see is either of us getting too sore by having sex too much which doesn't happen too often as Astroglide works very well as a lubricant for both of us.|||First, don't put much trust in 'locker room' chat with guys about the number of times they are having sex per week. Take the figure and divide it by half if you want the real truth. Hmmmm, married without kids can be a lot different than married with a bunch of kids. I agree with the woman in her 40s, my husband and I have sex no less than 3 times a week (sometimes replays on the weekend). It's a whole new game when the kids leave the nest!!!|||We are not married but we live together and we are married in every sense of the word except that we do not have the paper.
I am 24 and 5 months pregnant and he is 29 and we have sex at least once a day if not more and on the weekends it is non stop. Just enough for him to refill that is why I suppose it wasn't long before I got pregnant.|||My thought is get divorced before you have kids are stuck with the cold fish.
Seriously, it literally means she doesn't love you - either she doesn't feel it, doesn't want to make an effort to, or for some reason is unable or unwilling to.
Get out and move on with your life before you are stuck with her.
People will say to ensure you are romancing her etc...
It doesn't matter. If she has a low sex drive she has a low sex drive and flowers and a night on the town are not going to help.
You're suppose to do those things because you love her not to get sex anyway.
Don't do what I did.
I sat down and talked to my wife about it and she did love me and made changes and we started getting it on a lot more. We went out more. I started doing all kinds of romantic things for her etc...
Then she got pregnant and it went right back to the way it was.
She has no energy left over to keep up the charade anymore.
And no, it does not matter how much I help with the kids.
I already do damn near everything and I take care of my kids so that my kids are taken care of not as some sort of bartering chip to buy sex from my lazy wife.
It was because it was all a charade. She did it for me, which was in a sense a nice thing for her to do, but it was also a lie.
And she can't sustain such a lie for 30~50~70 years.
The bottom line is, if she /wanted/ a sex life with you she would make the time and energy to have it.
She doesn't. Which means... she doesn't.
As far as not satisfying her, if that's the case the onus is on her to tell you and do something constructive about it.
Otherwise, who exactly are you suppose to practice with?
Lastly, her sexual dysfunction is not your fault and her mentality and attitude about sex and towards you makes the difference on how things role.
If she holds you in contempt in the relationship she's not going to see sparks in the bedroom because she'll carry the contempt into it. And you cannot make her stop holding you in contempt. (i.e. If she's a ***** she's a *****, you can't make her not-a-*****.)
If she takes ~30+ minutes to climax, get a vibrator.
Most women do not reliably climax from penetration alone and need additional stimulation. Save for a few positions you run out of hands. In the end, if she /wanted/ to climax with you she would be.
Get out while the getting is good.
"It will destroy any further relations with your wife."
What relations? You want to live out your days whacking it?
You should live alone then and not have all the additional baggage of a woman/wife to deal with.
You should be getting all the hot sex you can, while you still can and if you're not getting it with the woman you are with dump her and move on.|||Once every 2 weeks? in your 20's???
Put it this way if me and my girl had more "free time" (alone) we would have sex ALL the time, however she works, goes to school, cooks, cleans, works out, it's hard to find time especially with kids. I understand that and I just end up wacking it, so it's about the same, Once every 2 weeks.
Whatever you do, do not make it a job to have sex. If the feeling is not there do not force it. It will destroy any further relations with your wife.|||be romantic to get her in the mood. she wants to know you dont want just sex but you want to enjoy her and the time you get to spend with her. she wants to be intimate. so set up a romantic dinner, candles flowers the whole nine, sound cheesy, it is but she will love it. do more things for ehr and she will want to have sex more often.
also make sure you are pleasing her. if your not then thats why she doesnt want to have sex, she wants to enjoy it too. so let her know you want her to enjoy it as much as you do.
my girlfriend is 21 and i am 23. we have been dating for 3 years and we have sex about 3-4 times a week. we dont live together, shes still in school and my house is close to her school. but now that its summer were about 2 hours away so that number will deff go down.|||We're not married, but living together for 3 years. We have sex 3-4 times per week. From talking with my friends I've concluded that it comes down to how tired/stressed out the woman is. Do you have children? I believe that in most situations kids are exhausting and this decreases the sex in a relationship.|||2-5 times a week is about right for your 20's. If your wife won't give it up, yo must not have her trained very well (just kidding). Seriously, decide how important it is to you then sit her down and talk to her. If it is that important, be ready to leave over it.|||It varies a lot between couples. I reckon your ration is a little low, but then maybe she's tired with working long hours?
Check yourself out - be honest! Have you put on weight? Are you smelly?!
I think 3 times a week is reasonable, once a week a little stingy.|||Dont beg its a big turn off and I'll let you in on a secret,I wouldve had sex every night if my husband had satisfied me in bed.could that be your problem?men think their cassanova but most of them suck at sex .or if youre all about sex and dont show interest in her in other aspects of life thats why shes saying no
JAYSON you got it figured|||Well I just turned 30 and my hubby is 31 and we have sex 2-5 times per week too. Since our 20's wasn't that long ago, I'd say it's pretty much always been about that often. Are you sure your pleasuring her? Maybe that's why she isn't very interested?|||Different people have different sex drives. It sounds like yours is average to high while hers sounds to be low. You can try to work it out or dump her for someone who has a libido that more closely matches yours.|||Sometimes once, sometimes not at all, and sometimes everyday, or even twice a day!|||Your wife seems to have a low sex drive. Is she on the pill? The contraceptive pill can sometimes affect a woman's sex drive.|||Something must be wrong. Talk to her and maybe seek counseling. I'm in my 40's and have sexual relations 2-3 times a week.|||My husband and I are 21/22 and we have sex at least 4 times a week. I am even 33 weeks pregnant with our second child and we still have the "desire"|||2-3, depends really.|||Well, I'm a married women in my 40's and we have sex several times a week.|||it depends on how you like it.because me and my wife always have sex every two days and we are just 20/23 years of age|||24 hours a day!!!! until you get to about 45,, then its about 22 hours aday,,
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