Is sex a big part of a relationship? How important is it?

I am 18 years old my boyfriend is 25 years old. We've been together for 4 years now we have never had sex or did anything sexual because I don't want to until I'm married my boyfriend has had sexual relationships before we started dating. My family didn't care that we had a big age difference between us when we started dating. My friends and family think that my boyfriend is just wanting to have sex, and is waiting for it then he will just leave me. But If he just wanted sex wouldn't he have left already?Is sex a big part of a relationship? How important is it?There's no way a guy would stay with you for 4 years just waiting to have sex; they're not that patient. The only way he would still be with you that long if he just wanted sex, he would be cheating on you, which hopefully isn't the case. Your parents are just paranoid and trying to look out for you; don't take it too seriously. If you're in a happy and healthy relationship then good for you!Is sex a big part of a relationship? How important is it?
Your age difference is not important but, what he is doing with your relationship is. There should be obvious questions like, "Is he having sexual relationships with other girls while he is going out with you?."

"Are you seeing anyone else with the same intetions at this time?."

Becasue as far as I can see it, he is a typical male just waitting to jump his prey, assault it, rape it and fly away. If he is real to his word, then you have to start asking questions about his actions and the realities that both of you are willing to attempt. Is it really worth it or do you know that you can do better. Afterall, there are loads of men out there. You are better off making a life for yourself, becoming the success you need to be then, and only then, you should worry about getting your groove on. So think about it kid. because if you get involved now, you can kiss your future goodbye...Is sex a big part of a relationship? How important is it?It's an important part of a marriage, if you're happily married then naturally you desire eachother and want to have sex, it's not a "duty" or a "chore", it's something two married people should want to do. That's how it is in my marriage anyhow.



There are of course more important things than sex, but it's a good thing in a relationship yes.
It is very honorable of him to respect your wishes and not pressure you for sex until you are ready. Sex is a large part of an adult relationship, but it is tied to emotional intimacy and is a piece of the puzzle that makes a happy relationship. There are other pieces to a relationship, as well (such as trust, commitment, etc..) And, I would think that he could easily have gotten sex from someone else in less than 4 years, so I don't believe he's just using you for that. He sounds like a nice guy to wait for you.Is sex a big part of a relationship? How important is it?i feel like that if that's all he wanted then yes he would have already left you. 4 years is a long time and he obviously is in it for the long haul. i think its great that he respects you. Dont think for a min that that's all he wants because you have explained to him that you want to wait and if you all get married then that's a relationship that will be forever. also props to u its very hard to stick to that decision(i know) and stay with it. Good luckIs sex a big part of a relationship? How important is it?
I hate to put it to u this way but i think hes sleeping with someone on the side. First off u started dating him when u were 14. He is alot older then u. Most older guys want only one thing from younger girls %26amp; that's sex. I would make sure %26amp; have him do a std test as well sense he has had sex before.
Extremely. Also don't you want to know before you get married how good the sex will be? How you 2 will fit together? If he has an STD? What if he has a disappointingly small....? Hey, it happens! Better have a heads up on all of the above BEFORE you get married!Is sex a big part of a relationship? How important is it?
They think he has waited four years for sex? Wow. Sorry but no one would wait that long if that was their only motivation.

On the other side what in the world was a 21 year old doing with a 14 year old? Something is seriously wrong with this man.
You were 14 dating a 21 year old and your family did not care...are you kidding me..iI have no more words, he should be locked up somewhere..yeah i would say sex is his target he is SICK..you were just a baby dear God help these perverts
You are lying. He has not been with you 4 years without sex. BE HONEST. Anyway, give it up...He wants to feel that wet creamy tight hole all over his big d.i.c.k. You will love it...
It is huge in a relationship, however if you want to wait until you are married stick with that. You are worth waiting for.
It seems like to me he would have already left. I'm still stuck on "my family didn't care that we had a big age difference between us when we started dating." You were 14 and he was 21? Wow!
I can't even answer this question because my mind is stuck on a 21 year old being with a 14 year old. Absolutely disturbing.
yes its much easier to get sex then wait for 4 freaking years. and its a HUGE part of a relationship.
its not the small....part....life is not all about having sex........its about love caring and other stuff.....there are some fools that think that life is all about having sex
Sex is a very big part of an adult love relationship. If he tells you it's not, he's lying.
So keep it to yourself. Its what YOU want. If he loves you he'll wait.
I lost my virginity to a boyfriend that had had sex before he dated me. It was very hard for me to come to terms with the fact that he had been with other women, but he was the only guy i had ever slept with. I never actually got over it until we broke up, and it was the source of many problems in our relationship. Because of this, i know that sex is a huge part of a relationship, and it is very important to have a healthy sexual relationship with your significant other.



I'm telling you this because i think you should wait. If you have sex with him, you may experience some of the same awful feelings i had about my boyfriends past. You're a smart girl for wanting to wait until marriage because sex complicates things and is very emotional.



If your boyfriend has stayed with you for 4 years, there is no doubt that he cares about you. If all he wanted was sex, he surely would have left already. However, if he loves you, he will wait until you are ready. Even if that means marriage. And he will still be around long after you have sex. Don't risk your virginity though, it is a valuable thing.